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CosmicMouse
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TOPIC of the WEEK: Can men and women be friends?
Most of you probably know the cult-movie "When Harry Met Sally". I dunno how often I have watched this movie...  ...the most famous scene is surely when Sally is proving that she can fake an orgasm - in the middle of a restaurant. Legendary scene! 
Here is a little reminder what the story is about - with the main question of the movie at the end... feel free to discuss! 
Harry and Sally meet when she gives him a ride to New York after they both graduate from the University of Chicago. The film jumps through their lives as they both search for love, but fail, bumping into each other time and time again. Finally a close friendship blooms between them, and they both like having a friend of the opposite sex. But then they are confronted with the problem: "Can a man and a woman be friends, without sex getting in the way?"
What do you think?
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jamirokaki
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| Posted: Tue May 23, 2006 16:52 |
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well...at least for me is quite hard!
i'm very sexual and sensual guy (and hot and horny...)
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Dye
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| Posted: Tue May 23, 2006 17:35 |
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Ufff... is very hard.
I saw that movie, and I always ask myself that too.
If for only one second you think of a 'sexual' thing with a girl you feel it's your friend, or you start feeling attracted... then that's it. That only second will ruin your 'friend life'.
I used to say it is possible.
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lenali
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| Posted: Tue May 23, 2006 18:09 |
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So much men I know told me that it's IMpossible, but my opinion is
"if it's clear that both don't wanna have sex .... there is no problem"
think it's possible cause one of my best friend is a man- I love him sooo much but can't imagine having sex with him and he knows... |
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Marina
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| Posted: Tue May 23, 2006 18:48 |
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I think it's possible, sometimes. In fact, I have more male friends than female, I dunno why, but I feel men are better in many ways (don't get me wrong, I'm talking in the "friendship area", men are waaaay more loyal than women..).
My closest group of friends is formed with me,2 girls and 3 boys, and I definetly dont wanna have sex with them, and I cant tell they feel the same way about me, because we know each other from very little and it's like..we know everything (or almost) about each other so..
Anyway, my answer's YES, men and women can be friends |
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Snorry
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| Posted: Tue May 23, 2006 20:25 |
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NO THEY CAN´T
I ended up dating with my best female- friend. 2 weeks ago she tourned creepy and since then we´ve almost speak. So it looks like I´ve lost a very close firend and a girldfriend. What a deal! 
You can be friend of one member of the other sex, but when you get too close to that person you allways end wanting something more. |
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the_doesman
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| Posted: Tue May 23, 2006 21:10 |
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Being friends is a form of attraction and that can turn into something sexual |
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Sandriche
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| Posted: Tue May 23, 2006 21:30 |
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under special circumstances it is possible i think..
but it´s hard..no question
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FRA
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| Posted: Tue May 23, 2006 22:56 |
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For many people the idea of a man and a woman being friends is charming, but improbable.
It is very difficult for a man and woman to have a platonic friendship…normally emotions get in the way and friendship can be ruined by one of the parties starting to get either possessive or jealous…
About me i have more male frendships than female's one: i think that it's easier for a woman to entertain these kind of "relationships": guys r more sex attracted: they r not able to put a wal between them and girls.
However, there r naturally the exceptions which refute wot i've just said.
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deesh
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| Posted: Wed May 24, 2006 02:41 |
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if one of them is gay, sure it's possible...
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 , seriously - i have male friends that i have NO attraction to whatsoever in that manner or i am friends with their wives/girlfriends, so that thought never crosses my mind...and then i had a best friend that it turned into more. one of us had MORE feelings and the other didn't. it changed things and not for the better. we are still struggling to get back to where we started. it's very hard and very painful - so basically, it can, but it's SO not easy...every situation is different! then again, as i get older, i find that good friends are truly hard to come by and maintain, no matter the gender
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Gonza-Arg
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| Posted: Wed May 24, 2006 02:58 |
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NOT AT ALL!
I mean I don't have too many women friends.... maybe that's the problem, hehe |
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jamilichid
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| Posted: Wed May 24, 2006 17:23 |
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all my friends at school are boys lol, so yes, i no at least 3/4 of them dont/have never fancied me so yes they can!
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Dye
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| Posted: Wed May 24, 2006 17:30 |
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There's a point that's been missing here, I believe.
I do have a lot of female friends. But let's put an hipothetic case. Imagine you have a female friend which you don't feel attracted to. So, you might aswell say that you're friends, and you believe in friendship between man and woman. But what happens if SHE feels something towards you? The friendship is ruined no matter what.
That's my point of view.
There are cases, but maybe they're difficult to prove.
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Jaminneapolis
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| Posted: Wed May 24, 2006 20:06 |
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with or without benefits hehe...
It's tough...very tough
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fUnK[iLo]
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| Posted: Wed May 24, 2006 23:30 |
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I think that it is possible, although it's way harder for men not to think about sex! lol
I dunno why, and I don't want to sound feminist, I just think that's the way things are
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