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Ms.P
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Bullying & Acceptance
At school and during my early years I was bullied. Okay - why - let's summarise:
Twisted hips: make me walk "funny" - pigeon toed- feet turn in
Birth mark: middle of forehead
Different coloured eyes: hmmm....one green, one blue for years (now merged into near-enough acceptable state.
I was teased badly during school, my own father said to me "you'll never find anyone to marry you".
I overcompensated by having a personality - as the years have gone by - this has become a "big" personality - I LIKE how I am inside - for years I hated who I was on the outside.
It's really hard to talk about stuff that makes us different - or makes people who are "normal" pick on us....
The first society I felt "accepted" within...the first place I felt at "home" was within the Jamily....
so what if I walked a bit funny...so what if my eyes are odd....so what??????
Within this society it's all about the funk...it doesn't matter who you are...or what you are...
I joined when J Talk was the forum, there was so much bitchiness there - I remember being picked on - and Cosmicmouse was one of the first to leap to my defence - and I will always remember that in my heart - I always felt inferior in this forum - because I didn't have the technical knowledge, I'm not Kaki...I can't talk about remixes from the year "dot"!
I think this forum has become a place for us all - ) - no bullying, no discrimination - we are all who are we all - and should be accepted for our own personalities.
Disability rules!!!!!
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freaky
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| Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2007 23:26 |
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Jan sweety, what can i say
About the bullying, i know where you are comming from.
If i was near you now, now words would be needed...just a big hug!
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TooYoungToDie
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| Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2007 23:29 |
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Tottally agree with u, Jan.
I also joined the jam "community" when JTalk at jamiroquai.co.uk, and I met Jan, Rob, Mike at the chat over there, yay that one who was always empty!. And I always felt accepted byt everyone, its just comfortable to be "in" here (even thought I re-joined a few days ago),
Plus, in here u will find people who will understand ur feeling bout jamiroquai, and who will understand your funky soul, really: that doesnt happen everywhere. I am pretty sure no one has understand or could express a feeling similar to mine in what respect to Jamiroquai, and another stuff, important things!.
So, yes, this is a great community, I've never met someone who I dislike over here, JTalk or around Jamiroquai.
Lets keep it funky! Dance o' yeah !
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Ms.P
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| Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2007 23:40 |
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hey Marian....one day I'm coming to Mendoza - 
and you're a great girl - missed you loads - welcome "home" - msp1@hotmail.co.uk - xxxxx
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Ms.P
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| freaky wrote: |
Jan sweety, what can i say
About the bullying, i know where you are comming from.
If i was near you now, now words would be needed...just a big hug! |
I was a B.I.T.C.H to you Mango
....but love you loads Ms Funky Soul xxx
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freaky
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| Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2007 23:50 |
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Yes you was....but....we all can be that some times!
So been there, done that 
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Ms.P
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| Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2007 23:52 |
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Yes you was....but....we all can be that some times!
So been there, done that |
I was a bully and I apologise in public
ohhhh I love mangooooooooooooooooo.....lmao
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russky
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i agree with you jan - it's not big and it certainly aint clever.
its all very well having a laugh but when it grinds you down and gets personal - then that's just wrong.
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freaky
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| Ms.P wrote: |
| freaky wrote: |
Yes you was....but....we all can be that some times!
So been there, done that |
I was a bully and I apologise in public
ohhhh I love mangooooooooooooooooo.....lmao |
NO serious words in my mind, only jokes.
But jokes are NOT nice...so...that leaves only
THANKS JAN!!!!
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Samiroquai
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I'm always surprised when people tell me they've never been bullied, because I think everyone gets it at some point. I was bullied at school from almost as soon as I started, because I only have one ear. Small kids can be very cruel, because they don't think about what they're saying. Much later, I was bullied at secondary school for - you'll love this - liking Jamiroquai! Funny thing is those same people, when I hear from friends-of-friends-of-friends about them now, also say they 'like Jamiroquai'. Oh the irony.
Jamily is a feeling and a community, and it's grown a hell of a lot since I first posted on the forums in 1998, but here, it's all good and brown (or yellow, pink, purple, green, peuce... because we don't discriminate!).
Sam
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CosmicMouse
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| Posted: Sun Mar 04, 2007 07:33 |
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Re: Bullying & Acceptance
| Ms.P wrote: |
I joined when J Talk was the forum, there was so much bitchiness there - I remember being picked on - and Cosmicmouse was one of the first to leap to my defence - and I will always remember that in my heart - I always felt inferior in this forum - because I didn't have the technical knowledge, I'm not Kaki...I can't talk about remixes from the year "dot"!
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Jan, I remember those times... the acceptance at the old J Talk (on the official jamiroquai site) was not written in big letters. When I joined there I immediately saw there are a bunch of great people who have the same vibes like me, but then again, there were trouble makers - i was missing the repect and tollerance in many points. That was ONE of the reasons why I wanted to have my own forum, where I can (more or less) guarantee a nice atmosphere and where I can give all those great people one place to be. It feels good to see that it worked out!
Meanwhile JTalk has merged in Jam Party People and is in good hands now, the software and structure of the forum has been applied, also the fact that moderators take care about everything. I think Jamirotalk was a inspiring example for these changes.
On a related note, I'd like to point out that I don't really like when people call Jamirotalk "JTalk" as a short-form. Because of its history - JTalk was something different. JTalk had no concept, no rules, less respect. Jamirotalk was an improvement - with one big difference: we talk "jamiro" not only "J". 
Anyways, when I was in school I was picked on my big nose. And my braces... 
Keep up the good vibes here! 
Love ya! 
Mouse 
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Jamiroquanna
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| Posted: Sun Mar 04, 2007 08:26 |
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| Samiroquai wrote: |
| I'm always surprised when people tell me they've never been bullied, because I think everyone gets it at some point. |
I agree.
Sorry to hear about your experiences Jan   Children can be spiteful, and most of the time they realise that they were wrong and feel very ashamed of their actions as adults. I was also bullied at school and had someone apologise to me many years later for their behaviour. As far as I was concerned, it was no longer my problem only theirs. Life is funny. Take the good with the bad and realise that the friends you have now are the ones that count....
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Knjaz
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I sorta feel the same. You see, people pick on me because I wear glasses, I can't fight (or more like "don't wanna hurt anybody because I'd bring myself into deep trouble, and would possibly wreck my future related to middle school), I'm sorta fat and that I listen to Jamiro...
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FRA
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| Posted: Sun Mar 04, 2007 09:26 |
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Interestin topic Jan.
Bullying is a massive problem that affects loads of persons.
I started getting bullied when I was 10; it did make me feel very very upset but the only thing I could do is to ignore them.
They absolutely liked to pick on me. " FRA s too skinny, she must be seriously ill".
I was constantly ridiculed by them. That was one of the shittest period in my life, luckily it was only for some months till i decided to tell teachers what was happening.
I think people who bully are sad lonely and "jealous" of the people who they bully or they wanna feel the power of their "supremacy" over the others and i really think that this bullying behavior, if not stopped during childhood, can progress into adulthood, i mean into the workplace where they can become powerful sources of distrust, of fear.
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jameerica
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| Posted: Sun Mar 04, 2007 10:18 |
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people picked on me cause of my nationality....that hurts a lot.... 
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