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Dye
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The WAWGD? Topic
Hello Talkers
No Jamiroquai until late 2007 -at least- What Are We Gonna Do????!!!! 
OK, so I think we need to create new interesting topics where we can all know each other a little better, just an idea.
Let's start by asking you this question, which I'm very interested because of some personal experiences I'm having: how do you spare your time between your personal life and your friends? How do you "keep" that friendship? 
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Deja
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| Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2007 10:48 |
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nice Topic Dyego, well me I do my best to have time x my friends and we have few specifics moments during the day, by example every day my bestametes ( 3 girls and a boy) came over to my house after lunch to stay half an hour with me and have a coffe togheter, then we all go to work!
Like with everything you need to organize a bit, like we know once a week we go out only girls (and you can't immagine what a mess we do) and like on sunday we ( me and BF) meet other friends, maybe we eat togheter or go toghetre with the dogs on our mountains!
Anyway without concerts to look for it will be a long year!!
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FunkyDonkey
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| Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2007 12:56 |
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Nice topic, I have this problem as I have a long lasting relationship with my girlfriend. I use to meet friends a lot in the week but I pass the complete weekend together with my girlfriend. She works in a different city (Milan) during the week and comes home at friday. I pass a lot of time with friends of university but I miss a lot of friends that live near my home, it's sad but we meet very rarely. I can't solve this problem actually right now an I think there's no solution with this "scenario"....
Don't worry for this year, the activity will be lower for sure but we still have a lot of threads to start just for chat purpose and a lot of bootlegs and video to organize.. 
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| Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2007 13:14 |
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| Dyego wrote: |
| Let's start by asking you this question, which I'm very interested because of some personal experiences I'm having: how do you spare your time between your personal life and your friends? How do you "keep" that friendship? |
Well, I incorporate those friends into my personal life. I invite them to do things that are personal to me - like volunteer stuff.
I also just make sure to reach out to them in some form on a consistent basis whether it be just a text message, email, phone conversation or sharing a meal, movie. Whatever time allows. As you grow, you grow apart sometimes because you are changing and so are they. So, it's just keeping up with the change and maintaining communication.
It's actually pretty simple to me. I've had the same friends pretty much all my life. The ones I just acquired, I plan on keeping. But then again, I'm very careful at who I call friends and who I call associates/acquiantances.
Hope this helps
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| Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2007 12:41 |
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...What are we gonna do?
Suggestion: I'm not exacly sad that the band doesn't play, at least I will have time to organize the bootleg's load! 
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| Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2007 19:03 |
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Re: The WAWGD? Topic
| Dyego wrote: |
how do you spare your time between your personal life and your friends? How do you "keep" that friendship?
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There was a time, in which I had a boyfriend, had a part-time job, had to go to college, and still wanted to see my friends and my family... Those were CRAZY days!! What I used to do was to spend sundays with my family, wednesdays with friends and the rest with my bf... still, he wanted to spend more time together and finally we broke up.
Sincerely, up to now, I've never learned how to do it... |
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MissyM
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email, msn, text & of course hours on the phone is the main way i keep in touch with my friends.. but we try and catch up for dinner or lunch once or twice a month we take turns in choosing a cafe/restaraunt as we all live in diff areas and we meet there and have a laugh.. Some times other things come up and you can't make it but most of the time we are all there.. 3 of those friends are ones that I have known since highschool so it is great we still stay as close friends.. they are like sisters in a way..
I have other friends from studies and work as well as Ihave family to consider I am kept busy most of the time.. I always try and make time for friends I think u need that is sep to family..
ppl with g/friends & b/friends need to make time for their friends as well because a few ppl i have know over the years when they get attached you hardly ever see them. until they break up and want a shoulder to cry on... it's a shame.. 
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FunkyDonkey
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| Posted: Thu Apr 12, 2007 07:25 |
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| MissyM wrote: |
ppl with g/friends & b/friends need to make time for their friends as well because a few ppl i have know over the years when they get attached you hardly ever see them. until they break up and want a shoulder to cry on... it's a shame.. |
Yeah, this happened to me too, some friends disappeared for years then came back after they broke up with the girlfriend. That's not a kind behaviour you could say but I can understand how things are going within a strong relationship and I just carry on the friendship like nothing changed, I don't know if it's right or wrong but that's what I do, a big jump on the timeline...
Of course a phonecall, an email or an instant messenger conversation isn't too difficoult to make so I expect at least this once in a year...stuff like Christmas/Easter wishes...
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sally
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| Posted: Thu Apr 12, 2007 18:36 |
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well i have friends who have been around since school and others from uni. my true friends are still in touch, i now live away from many of them but i still email, txt them etc. i meet up once a year with uni friends in chester, we always do this without fail.
when i was younger we all hung around in a big group. i spent time with my fella in the week, went out with friends at the weekend and whoever i was seeing joined in to. it seemed to work unless they didn't like him and then well thats another story.
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Dye
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| Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 01:42 |
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Can't believe this topic survived! 
| MissyM wrote: |
ppl with g/friends & b/friends need to make time for their friends as well because a few ppl i have know over the years when they get attached you hardly ever see them. until they break up and want a shoulder to cry on... it's a shame.. |
This has been something that I always ALWAYS talk about with my friends. I can hardly accept this kind of behaviours, it just irritates me. I could accept it at the beginning, years ago, when being 'with girlfriends/boyfriends' was new, but... oh well... I guess I'll have to find out by myself when I have a girlfriend.
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MissyM
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| Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 02:53 |
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yes Dyego I agree it is difficult but I am a softy and I always welcome them back to my life with open arms.. 
I believe boyfriends (or g/friends) come and go but true friends last a lifetime.. Usually u find if you give them a few months space to go off and spend every living second with their new found love they eventually come back on board..
AND..(hope this isn't too off topic)..But...Have u noticed ever that sometimes when a friend breaks up and come running to u for a cry that u have to watch what u say about the other person.. (we'll call them ex).. because once I opened my BIG F Mouth and said "I never really like him u know".. She ended up getting back together with this freaky ex and didn't want to see me!!! .. can u imagine..!!.. hehee.. She eventually dumped his sorry ass 2 YEARS later.. but hell.. that really ticked me off.. She still my friend now tho I let her back to play in my world again...  
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| Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 17:32 |
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| MissyM wrote: |
I believe boyfriends (or g/friends) come and go but true friends last a lifetime..
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Absolutely agree... |
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Butterfly in June
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| Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2007 13:02 |
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But if you get married and have a family it is even harder to stay in touch with friends. Some friends I see at work nearly every day so that's easy to handle - and we also meet in the evening once a month to go for dinner or to cinema but some of the old friends live in other towns, have their own families and if they don't check their emails regularly it's not easy to contact them.  |
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MissyM
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| Butterfly in June wrote: |
| But if you get married and have a family it is even harder to stay in touch with friends. Some friends I see at work nearly every day so that's easy to handle - and we also meet in the evening once a month to go for dinner or to cinema but some of the old friends live in other towns, have their own families and if they don't check their emails regularly it's not easy to contact them. |
I agree butterfly, it takes a little effort on both sides. But the true friends will always try to make an effort. Having a family can make it a little harder but it is certainly no excuse not to keep in touch esp. these days with all the modern tech. Some ppl u just outgrow it seems and they r the ones who generally get left by the wayside.. It is harder when friends move a distance away but still it's nice to check in on one another via text, email & phone every so oft.
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LittleEm
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| Posted: Wed Apr 18, 2007 22:05 |
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Have to agree, you do keep in touch with true friends, and those that are true friends, don't mind if you haven't caught up with them in a while, it's just good to see each other.
I have really lovely friends, and they mean a lot to me. I also find it hard fitting in seeing the family, but with them being far away it's not so easy. I've caught up with a cousin a lot lately, it seems we have quite a bit in common and similar views on things, even though we've not been in touch for a while.
But i guess between work, (arrgghh), family and friends I don't find loads of time free, so i try to rotate who i catch up with....obviously I see more of certain people than others. I don't know how i'd cope if there was a boyfriend in the mix too, guess i'd figure it out!  |
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