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deesh
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| In the beginning all is fine, you laugh a lot, you make lots of love and it's great, you want to be together all the time and then...suddenly..it changes. Why ? |
This is just my opinion and experience. In the beginning you are so excited about the possibilities and the feelings. The feeling you have being around the person, their voice, their smell...all of that stuff. You are discovering so many things about yourself and about them and about the world - because of their presence in your life. I think that at times that makes you change as a person.
Then you get comfortable and it gets tricky. You either stay excited or comfort replaces love. I stayed in a relationship for years because I was comfortable, but not in love. I had the whole philosophy that I had to get married and have kids. Thank God I snapped out of it before I had kids with someone I didn't love.
Regardless of how in love people are, they are still 2 different people. If I hop on a plane to go see Stephan - I have no problem leaving Clayton behind.  ! We still laugh everyday. We aren't one of those couples that are all 'you complete me', 'as soon as i met you, i loved you', 'i don't know what i'd do without you'...blah, blah, blah....sad, but we are both strong and that is not our reality.
I think the key to us staying together is loving the people that we are becoming and recognizing that we are in the real world and yes, we are going to have real problems, but we have eachother to get through them. Our community work is how we met and it is a strong part of our relationship. We are both passionate about it to the point of insanity. Now he is one of my biggest supports.
To those that aren't in love or with someone - its totally okay really. I look at it as there are people who have just settled for someone to have anyone and it is somehow disguised as love. Enjoy your solo time, do what you want, when it gets lonely - hang with your friends. Be who you are and live your life how you want...not having to be considerate of anyone else right now and in time...someone will come along.
xo
I don't know the point of this ramble at all.... 
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NiMira
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| Posted: Thu Sep 04, 2008 19:02 |
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| In the beginning all is fine, you laugh a lot, you make lots of love and it's great, you want to be together all the time and then...suddenly..it changes. Why ? |
It doesn't change suddenly. And it's only natural that it does so. If you lose the butterflies it doesn't mean that love is gone, it just moved to the next level. And if you start living together, you must make compromises. Well, love is just one big compromise. Today is great, tomorrow it sucks. But problems in a relationship do not come from or because of one person. You are in it together. Butterflies in the beginning, bat later a condor comes. He comes rarely, but when he does... It's just great.
To speak metaphorically.
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deesh
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| Posted: Fri Sep 05, 2008 03:51 |
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cuteness...
i am up late trying to turn out this 1,000 word article and i am sooo tired. clayton is in the other room trying to leave me alone.
he keeps coming in to see if i need anything.
went to the store and got me candy for a sugar high so i can finish, and just a few minutes ago..he wrote me an email (he's right in the next room) saying 'i love you. now get off your email and focus'.
he's funny and so cute.
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Sandriche
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| Posted: Sun Sep 07, 2008 10:24 |
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awwwww deesh!! this little things are the stuff that make u just not want to miss your beloved ones in your life...
i am so happy for you deesh xx
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Jana B
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| Posted: Sun Sep 07, 2008 11:34 |
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Deesh, You have a lover and a mate. Sometimes it's so hard think that these two things together it's possible. He's there, let you doing your things but always show you how he loves you. Amazing!!!!
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Alice
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| Posted: Wed Sep 10, 2008 00:02 |
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Awwww, this is a really nice topic! Great to see, how many of you guys are in love with someone!
Especially Sandra darling, I'm soooo happy for you!!!! You and Rob are such a beautiful couple!!!! I'm wishing you all the best for your future!!!
Unfortunally, I'm also alone... well, what should I say... The perfect love is so hard to find |
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Sandriche
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| Posted: Fri Sep 12, 2008 17:31 |
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Aliiiice!! thanks so much!
it´s so hard to be apart at the moment but we just keep of thinking of the future...
  
hope ur dreamprince will appear soon aswell 
just believe in it
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J Bee
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| Posted: Fri Sep 12, 2008 17:54 |
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| peggy wrote: |
Love is complicated... I'm really happy for those who have found it !!
I guess I am too hooked on my freedom to ever have a serious relation that lasts...at the end, the man I knew got issues with me wanting to do things alone.
In the beginning all is fine, you laugh a lot, you make lots of love and it's great, you want to be together all the time and then...suddenly..it changes. Why ? |
Isn't the why contradictory to your second alinea? I mean saying you want to be together all the time and then wanting to have your freedom seems different sides to the story.
Anyway, I see your point. To me, the key to a good relationship is giving eachother the space and time needed to have a moment just for yourself. If it so happens that this time can be shared because of similar interests, well that is a bonus. But since no individuals have the same way of spending time for themselves at the same time, it is better to give eachother that moment.
But that just me talking
Oh. Congratz Sandriche on your new found love 
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Sandriche
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| Posted: Sun Oct 19, 2008 13:56 |
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thanks futaba!
just to keep u updated :
rob comes here in december and then we will go back to australia together january/february ...at least for half a year or so ..and then we will see what happens next..life is an adventure
so much waiting  
but we will make it 
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Jamiroquanna
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| Posted: Sun Oct 19, 2008 18:22 |
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Am very happy for you Sandra  Australia will be a terrific new adventure for you and I wish you all the very best in your future with Rob
Offtopic: It looks as though I will be back in Geneva in 2010 - seems like a long way off, but it's only one year  - Meike, PM on it's way to you tonight....
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YAML !!! LOL !!! - No comment. I'm scuttling off to dig up my YAML thread, and rekindle all that . . . duh ? . . . what's the word . . . wromunse.
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Sandriche
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| Posted: Mon Nov 17, 2008 20:38 |
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i sent my visa application for 12 months australia to the australian embassy in vienna today..
FINGERS CROSSED!!! 
please jamily help me visualizing that they´ll approve it!!!!!!!!
     
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Sandriche
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| Posted: Mon Nov 17, 2008 23:09 |
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hahahahhahahahahah
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